12 Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another,forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. We say that we forgive yet human nature is to still feel that wound and hurt deep inside. Especially if the matter at hand was never truly resolved. Pointing fingers, resentment, and pride all come into play. Being offended makes us human. we are all sinners and we all get offended. Only those that we love the most can truly hurt us. Finding a way to release the hurt in forgiving and being forgiven will release the habits and patterns. My habit pattern is to close the door, build a brick wall and walk away. Protecting myself from more hurt. This is not how God intends us to live.
Colossians 3:14-17 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. I've only just begun to feel this power :) AND I fail and fall as I strive to move forward in my walk because I am human. People will offend you... People will lie about you. People will lash out and try to destroy you. It is not the person but the enemy working thru them. Forgiving them releases you from burdens and sets you free to walk the path God has chosen for you. This is not a simple thing. Breaking old habits and changing the way you think is a process. My journey to change my life started only a year ago with a visit to a friend dying from cancer. That was an amazing visit with a dear friend that was excited and happy to be "going home". I did not understand how someone in such pain and only a week prior to her death was so happy. That was Joy.. and a LOVE so true ...I'm starting to understand :)
I have a long ways to go in my walk and I refuse to allow the enemy to pick pocket my happiness and joy. My spiritual gift of Mercy needs a lot of work.. It still strikes me as a little bit of a humor from God that that is one of my gifts.